Anonymous asked: So I've been following you for some time and I must ask, are you over him?
This is a complicated question. Brace yourself for maybe the longest complicated response ever. “He” was the only person I have ever been in love with and when we ended I experienced the most intense form of grief I’ve personally ever gone through. Love died for me when it ended between us. They say (and by they I mean Elisabeth Kübler-Ross) that there are 5 stages of grief:
1. Denial- “I feel fine”. “This can’t be happening. Not to me.”
2. Anger- “Why me? It’s not fair!” “How can this happen to me?” “Who’s to blame?”
3. Bargaining- “I’ll do anything for a few more years.” “I will give up my worldly possessions if…”
4. Depression- “I’m so sad, why bother with anything?” “I’m going to die soon, so what’s the point?” “I miss this person I was in love with, why go on?”
5. Acceptance- “It’s going to be okay.” “I can’t fight it, I may as well progress.”
I can firmly say and believe that “It’s going to be okay.” I am doing good things with my life and meeting good people and feeling like I can love again. I don’t think I will ever stop loving him, but I am not IN LOVE with him anymore. He was in my life for that time for a reason, as I believe that all people come and go and sometimes never go or never come all for reasons. I’m learning. My eyes are open again and to the horizon instead of looking down at my feet. I’m excited for the undetermined future because I am a stronger person now.
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